Your Relationship & Career Can Work in Unison

I was going to originally write this for Thought Catalog. But, I’m not going to because I think it’ll lose its value as a post (it’s too personal). Also, I’m in a rush and I’m not in the mood for grammatical criticism from Thought Catalog readers…

A couple of days ago I said that having a girlfriend can limit you from your successes. I’ve been thinking it over and I think I was wrong… well, not necessarily wrong. These past few days I’ve been to really understand how lucky and fortunate I am to have such an amazing partner. And, I think it’s because of this realization that I’m now able to explain to you…

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If James Franco Can Do It… Why Can’t I?

I was going to write about the mistakes I’ve made in my life because I, for a lack of a better word, fuck up all the time. I’ve been known to make rash decisions without really thinking about the consequences. And, in doing so, I usually get caught (100% of the time actually because I really suck at covering my tracks)… and guilt consumes my body.

But, I don’t want to talk about that right now because it’s a long post with tons of explanation and I do not have time to write such a thing: it requires a ton of self-emotional-reflection. Anyway, today I want to talk about James Franco. Yes, James Franco the actor slash amazing eclectic individual who seems to be able to do everything. When he was 28 years old he was attending Yale’s Phd writing program, writing movie scripts, acting in several movies, writing a fucking novel, and even directing a film. Jesus f’in Christ (see what I did there).

Even today he’s known to continue this path and I don’t think his productivity is going away anytime soon. Next year, this year (what’s left of it)… today. I want to follow in the steps of James Franco. Hell, if he can do it – so can I? Right? Yes.

What am I talking about?

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How to Get Paid To Write for an Online Magazine

My goal in life is to be a writer who gets paid to write. Of course this isn’t the only reason why I’m writing my novel. I write because I love writing and I’m a great storyteller.

Social Proof: You can see my prominent online articles on Thought Catalog & ghostwritten online articles at Simple Pickup (start with “How To Get Along With Your Girlfriend’s Family” and head backwards… everything after that I didn’t write. Basically, 85% of those articles I’ve written). Also, last week, I was invited to a storytelling event where there were about 200 people and 12 storytellers. I did well and the MC texted me:

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I’m happy to report that an online magazine, Matador Network, has reached out to me to write articles for them. I’ll start with one and if it goes viral… then I write another and another and another. It pays $25 an article. This isn’t great money, but it’s a start.

Now that I have you attention and provided social proof. I’m going to tell you how you can get paid to write for an online magazine. Let’e begin…

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The Sacrifices & The Risks You Must Make to Follow Your Dreams

If you want to read something I wrote that I really like – you can check it out here -> 

I haven’t written in a very long time and I account that due to my ever growing laziness to write for this blog. I’m going to honest, it’s laziness. My priorities have been elsewhere and I regret every second of where my time has been spent.

The biggest thing that has been occupying my time is handling the business development & marketing of our newest client, Kipkay. He has a subscription based product and I deal with his email marketing product launches and potential business deals.

I know this may sound boring and I do not want to push anyone away…but, I’m proud to say that the company is doing well (increased it’s profit revenue by 60% in the past 2 months) & there is a chance we might be on Shark Tank (fingers crossed). I hope one day to really go into depth about email Product Launch formulas.

Anyway, let’s get to the meat of why I’m writing this post. Today I want to talk about the sacrifices and risk you must make to follow your dreams. And, I’m basing this all off what I currently decided to do with my own life. I decided to quit everything and become homeless.

Let me explain.

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Time Management

“Jack of all trades… master of none.”

I’m stressed out and that is why I’m writing here right now. I have so many things in my head and I’m not going to lie when I say I am unable to organize all of them together. I feel like a fucking idiot because I’ve put myself in a position where I’ve added a bunch of projects together and it’s eating me alive.

It’s sad. I want to tear up because the big things I really want to do take a big step back because work always seems to come first. Even though, the work, isn’t even paying me anything (#startup life).

(I can survive, monetarily, for a couple more months)…

But, when it comes to my own survival: my bags under my eyes, hair loss, energy, and happiness can only last for so long. This is why I need to focus on Time Management. So, you’re wondering – what am I working on? Here we go. I’ll tell you and I’ll tell you what I need to do to keep things on track and the tools I use to do so…

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Podcast Stat Update – One Day Launch

In my last post I told you the strategy I’m using to promote my 4 / 5 day a week podcast. For a quick recap, here is what I’m doing:

1. Interviewing people in advanced so I have a ready made archive.

2. Giving each interviewee the social links (sound cloud, direct link, facebook share) of their podcast when it goes live.

3. Having a few Twitter Peeeps (who have 1,000 – 10,000 followers) tweet out a certain podcast episode: stripper episode

4. Have a mailing list so I can remind people about the upcoming episodes.

5. Start pushing out the podcast on all my media channels (YouTube to Facebook)

6. Wrote an article on Thought Catalog to push people to the Stripper episode.

7. Ask other Podcasters out there to be on their show (Guest Appearances).

8. Ask audience members to review my podcast because I only have eight weeks to get on the New & Noteworthy on Itunes (Free Advertisement).

I haven’t done all of these steps. So, let me recap what I’ve done with the steps above, how it’s affected the stats, what is working, and the next steps to figure out how to make this podcast grow.

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My New (podcast) Project & The Strategy (I’m using) To Make It Go Viral

It’s 4:16am in the morning and…

I’m no longer afraid to tell you about my newest passion project I’ve been working on for the past three months. It’s my newest podcast called –

People With Careers: a 4 day a week podcast where I interview different people about their careers.

I think it’s the perfect platform for me because it’s something that i) I want to do, ii) I think I’m good at, and iii) is actually feasible to accomplish (with great attention and detail) by myself – based on the limited time I have!

Before I get into my strategy of what I’m planning to do to make it go viral, let me start by telling you more about this passion project I just started.

Are you ready? Here we go…
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It’s Been Quite Some Time: The Writer’s Block

Hello. I haven’t written something for quite sometime and it’s been bugging me because it’s far from the goals I’ve set for myself. In fact, I haven’t published anything on my YouTube channel nor Thought Catalog. It’s pretty depressing. I’ve been having, “writer’s block.”

Some people would say, “Jonathan, why do you care so much about this blog when only (on average) 50 people look at your blog a day & when you post something the maximum number of people who have read this page on a single day is 1,000.” I say I do it because to those 50ish people who visit everyday… this blog is for us. The community of people who know that this is an insider look into my the life of my struggles. YouTube & Thought Catalog is what is important when it comes to the viral exposure I want.

I’ve been having Writer’s Block. I’ll tell you what it is and why…

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Not Everyone Is A Winner (How It’s Affecting My Decision To Run A Company)

Recently I read an article by Daniel Negreanu, a world-renowned poker professional, who through his analysis of critiquing another poker player’s view on the game said,

Truth is, most of you reading this, will be lifetime losers at poker. You are unlikely to become successful professional poker players. It is available to all of you, and some of you will find success at the tables, but the truth is clear: most of you will fail. Sucks huh?”

Either it’s because I’m listening to alternative emotional rock music or my meds are not kicking in correctly, but I really resonate with that paragraph. The idea to hear a top poker professional tell the world that most of us… or in this case reminding me – that I AM NOT or will ever be a winning player – floored me in a position where I don’t want to gamble anymore. Why? because he’s fucking right.

I have / had this weird psychological fucked-up mindset where I could be a winning player in poker. I’m going to be honest, as I’ve said many times before – I’m not a winning play in poker.

I have an addictive gambling personality that I will keep playing for hours upon days upon weeks until I lose everything. I’ve said this before but gambling has ruined a big portion of my life.

I feel like crying. In fact I have cried about this already but I wish I never ever took up cards. It’s not even about the money, it’s just about the time of my life that I gave away in the process of playing cards. Anyway, I’m not here to repeat what I said in my gambling article. I want to tell you that “not everyone is a winner.” No matter how far you come, no matter how hard you work, no matter what you do… many times (sometimes) you just won’t win.

Here we go…
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Donated to ALS & Concerns About California’s Drought

Today I donated $50 to support the ALS Association. It’s for a great cause because your money will go to the research to find a cure against ALS.

Also, today I did my own Ice Water Bucket Challenge. You ready? Let’s get started…
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Competition

In terms of writing, these past two weeks have been very difficult. I would sit down and do my best to write an artciel for this blog, thought catalog, and even in my own private journals… with no success.

I attribute my writer’s block to a lack of reading and a lack of discipline:  i) a writer is able to write because he gets inspired and learns from reading other texts. ii) a writer must force himself in a room to write.

Thinking about the overall picture of the situation, I think the reason why I haven’t written anything is because I’ve been lazy. Laziness breeds inactivity, which triggers a loss of your  productive momentum that happens when you’re already doing something.

This entire concept also holds true for my YouTube channel: I haven’t published anything in weeks. The reason is because i) I don’t have anything good to publish and ii) I haven’t filmed enough to see if I have anything good to publish.

Today. Right now. It’s different. Something inside of me is screaming at me to write and film without hesitation. This means I’m not striving for perfection, I’m striving to gain the momentum necessary to start being productive again. I’ve allowed other distractions take over…

Why? What has led to this burning desire to start writing and filming again. It’s simple really, competition.

Let me explain.
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26 Rules To Live By From An Unsuccessful 26 Year Old

Hey Ya’ll. Even though I wrote this originally for Thought Catalog (you can see all my other type of writings there). I want to make sure you didn’t miss it so I’m republishing it here. I hope you enjoy this piece. 

This is inspired by one of my mentor’s post a year before.

I just turned 26 and I’m going to be honest with you. I do not have everything figured out. I’m still traveling, searching, struggling, and fighting hard to accomplish the goals I’ve set for myself. I am not a millionaire, a hundred thousandnair, or infamous. Almost every great opportunity I have had has led to a downhill battle, or is still pending in results, due to my inability to make the right choices.

Simply, I’m an unsuccessful 26 year-old.
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Why I Made “Say Something Wonderful Surprise!”

I recently made this film to help cope with my anger management issue:

Last weekend I visited my family in San Diego to hang out with my 15 and 17 year old brothers. The youngest one is into film while the other is into music. I’m fortunate to have creative family members because that (this) weekend I wanted to film something for my YouTube channel.

I haven’t posted anything for about a week. But I didn’t want to film just anything, I wanted it to be good.

The first concept I had was to start off being sad and then actually crying. The background would change as my face would tear up while looking miserably downcast. This is how I actually felt at the time (I’m a negative person). Then, the camera would shift and a smile would begin to creep up on my face as I looked up to see… the Disnelyand sign!

The next sequence of shots would be of me having a ton of fun on Disneyland rides. I was going to call it: “The Happiest Place on Earth.” However, we didn’t film it because we realized that Disneyland is very expensive, almost three hour drive away, and their was something missing in the overall concept. I swayed back and forth until I made the decision that we needed to push the idea for a later date.

This got me into a very depressed mood.
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How To Get Into UC Berkeley

For how small this website’s community is (60 people a day on average) – I’m always surprised when someone emails me (jonathan.gaurano [at] gmail.com) asking me to write an article. I appreciate it and like when you all do this because it helps me write something on this blog. I’m writing for you.
Here is what this person had to say:
“Future posts on college would be cool…”

As much as I could tell you how to get into college, I’m going to be honest with you that in my senior year in high school I applied to six universities and then got rejected by five: because I came from an under-resourced economic community, I wanted to go to an elite university because I knew the network for these places would help me move up into society – faster. So, I only applied to elite universities – AND – I got rejected by five of them.

Those five universities were i) New York University, ii) Columbia, iii) Brown University, iv) Wesleyan University, v) Notre Dame. Yes, I got rejected by all of them.

Last minute I got accepted by UC Berkeley (it’s a story I will tell later). It is the only school in California I applied to because it was the furthest from San Diego & it was (and is) the number one public school in the world. I thought to myself that if I didn’t get into UC Berkeley, I would go to a community college and then transfer. I really wanted to go to this school & now I’m going to tell you how I got in – hopefully it’ll help you someway.

Here we go.

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Making & Connecting with Friends

A week ago a reader emailed me asking me to write a post:

I think it would be cool to hear more advice on making friends. I know you have a post on networking though. I love hearing about networking advice though lol. Personally though, I struggle with connecting with people and making friends, and you seem like someone who knows a lot about that.

I think this reader gives me a little too much credit in this department. I’ve been thinking about this subject and I’ve realized the one thing this reader has to understand is that making and connecting with friends are two very different concepts. I believe making friend is one of the easiest things one can do in life, it requires little or no effort. Connecting with a friend is harder because it requires more time and trust with both parties involved. However, the main thing to keep in mind is that for both things to happen you cannot go in trying to be friends with anybody: you need to let it happen naturally.

As you can see there are three concepts we’re going to analyze and go through. Let’s begin.

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When Something Punishes You. Push Through?

Here’s the story.

I left for New York on Wednesday, July 9th 2014. I was there with my startup buddies for a business event where we had a big part in the convention that was being held there. Sadly, the convention got cancelled last minute. So here I was, spending $500 for a flight to New York, traveling to the destination with no real goal in mind. The only logical thing to do was i) Vlog ii) Write for this blog & Thought Catalog and iii) have fun times with my New York Friends.

Long story short these are the events that took place. I’m writing this fast because I’m currently sitting in an airport lobby waiting for my next flight.
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The Power of Consistency

Consistency, regardless if it’s working out – to brushing your teeth, is a very important trait to have if you want to be successful in anything. For the sake of this article and for the sake of my own brand, I’m going to talk about consistency in relation to the examples of this website, my articles on other sites, and my YouTube channel.

Let’s start with articles on other sites.
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Jesus. Too Much.

What’s up ya’ll?

I understand I haven’t been writing much and the numbers are showing. It used to be that about 100 of you were looking at this blog and now, we’re averaging only about 50. I haven’t disbanded ya’ll completely. I like writing and will keep up with this blog, but right now I will tell you that I haven’t been in tip-top shape because I’ve been extremely exhausted in the last few weeks.

As of right now I’m helping my friend with his startup by managing his internal team and pitching in with his sales strategy for an upcoming convention in NYC. I have no idea why I’m pitching in, but I guess because I just like helping? I believe in his idea? It’s fun to solve problems that a company has? It feels good to be needed?

(Probably yes to all of these rhetorical questions).
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Making Things NOT Happen

“I want to stay busy.”

“I’m not doing enough.”

“I need to be productive.”

These are constant things I hear and also tell myself on a daily basis when it comes to the projection of my self-worth. If I’m not doing something productive or if I’m not busy then I feel like I’ve become a disgusting slob for that day. The more slob like days I have, the more I want to rip my shirt into many pieces: I hate not being productive.

But, in time I’m learning that there is a big difference between productivity, staying busy, doing enough, and actually making things happen. What do I mean?
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The Only Way Out is Through

The Only Way Out is Through – Robert Frost

I was talking to one of my (gambling anonymous) sponsors the other day and I was telling him that I was having difficulty getting through the day without thinking about gambling. Living with an addiction that you’re trying to get rid out of your system is very arduous. Not being able to gamble might be easy for others, for me it’s like getting a mosquito NOT to fly towards a bright light.

Almost impossible.

And –

Los Angeles has a ton of Casino Lights that seduce me while I’m driving to and from work on the freeway. My head and hands sweat as my brain is trying to thinking of excuses to exit the freeway and SPRINT into the casino.

I really want to stop Gambling because it’s not only going to ruin me financially, but it’s also going to ruin the potential I currently have: am I willing to risk the rest of my 20s – MY LIFE – on cards?

So I called my sponsor and began to tell him how I wanted to pounce to the casino: the URGE IS SO STRONG. It’s weird it was like the casino was calling my brain to visit her. I was actually in pain because I wasn’t visiting her. You could say it felt like a bad breakup. I was venting these thoughts to my sponsor when he said, “Jonathan – The Only Way Out is Through.”

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